Hello blog friends and clickety-clickers! Are you well today? Me? Well, I have been better and I have been worse. The 'worse' has brought out a thought I can't let go of just yet.
Is blogging voyeurism?
Before I started this blog, I had read only one blog that I was introduced to through a magazine. I didn't see anything wrong with reading this blog as long as what was written on the blog could also be written on a postcard or published in a paper or magazine. And now, almost 5 months on, I still feel the same way about blogs. But I have found that there are blogs I choose not to read because of the high personal content that I don't feel like I should be privvy to although the author has chosen to put it out there. I exercise choice- the free will that God gave me.
Why is this still bugging me? Well, remember the perished friendship I wrote about at Easter? He told me that he thought I didn't like him and his wife because I hadn't made personal contact with them in a few weeks. They never asked me what was wrong, and plainly assumed I had a problem with them which I didn't, hence my utter shock. And besides I am a very open person, I would have told them everything that's going on if they had asked.
He emailed me saying that he has looked at my blog and concluded that I was having a social life without them- sorry, didn't know that they were into crocheting granny squares, knitting and cooking for my family because that is what I blog about, no? He then went to on to say that he was sorry he read my blog because that reduced him to voyeurism. He told me when I started this blog that blogging is voyeurism and he and his wife do not subscribe to it. Was I offended? No! Everyone is welcome to their own opinion. But I was offended that he chose to read my blog instead of talking to me as that is not a healthy way to conduct a friendship. Perhaps that was voyeuristic? What do you think?
This is the third post out of 70 odd that I have written something deeply personal. I just want to know what your thoughts are on blogging- Why do you blog? I see bloggers who aspire to be published authors, who promote their online business, who are staying in touch with family and friends from across the world and who simply like to connect with others who enjoy similar hobbies. Many are a combination of the above. I have come across bloggers who I feel share a lot of personal stuff, but I don't read them. I don't read blogs that don't interest me or offend me or that make me feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you have already stopped reading this post and have clicked on to something else. No one makes us read blogs.
Along the way, I have learnt a bit about blogging etiquette, much was already common sense. Should I be commenting on every blog I read? I do when I have something to say, but sometimes I don't have something to say back to the author- is that bad? Is commenting on a post like signing a visitor's book? More people visit my blog than comment- I know because I look at my stats- it doesn't bother me . . . does it bother you?
Tell me what you think. I want to be a considerate blogger and I think perhaps I need some scope from you!